Why Kids Resist Transitions (and How to Help)

If you’ve ever told your child it’s time to stop playing and move on—only to face tears, protest, or even a full meltdown—you’re not alone. Many parents feel puzzled when a child resists switching activities, even when the next thing is something fun.

In the latest episode of the Tantrum of the Week podcast, I explore why transitions can be so tough for young children and what you can do to make them easier for everyone.

Why Transitions Are Hard for Kids

Imagine a parent who shares that their four-year-old resists every request to change activities—whether it’s time to get dressed, leave the playground, or even go to the park.

This is a common challenge. Young children live deeply in the moment. When they’re focused on what they’re doing, shifting gears can feel jarring. They may also worry about what’s coming next, even if it’s something they usually enjoy.

Sometimes, past experiences—like encountering a scary dog at the park or a conflict with another child—can make transitions harder, even if a child can’t explain why.

Understanding these feelings helps you respond with empathy rather than frustration.

Strategies for Smoother Transitions

Here are some ways to support your child during transitions:

1. Prep Ahead
Give gentle, consistent reminders before it’s time to switch activities. Try:

“In five minutes, it will be time to get ready for the park. You can play a little longer before we go.”

Avoid warnings that focus on behavior (“You’d better not cry!”) and instead help your child anticipate the change.

2. Be Specific and Consistent
Offer time cues—at five minutes, then one minute—to help your child adjust. Young children don’t have a strong sense of time, so reminders build predictability.

3. Support, Don’t Punish
When it’s time to transition, stay calm and present. If your child gets upset, reassure them that you’re there to help. Once they’ve calmed down, focus on the positives about what’s next.

4. Set Them Up for Success
A small comfort item, like a favorite toy for the car, can help your child feel secure. This isn’t a reward for protesting—it’s a tool for learning how to manage change.

You’re Not Alone

Transitions are challenging for many children, and it’s normal for parents to feel unsure about how to respond. With preparation, empathy, and practice, you can make these moments smoother and less stressful.

For more guidance and real-life examples, listen to this week’s episode of Tantrum of the Week. It’s under 10 minutes and might give you some ideas. If you’d like more support, or if transitions are a frequent struggle, consider scheduling a parent consultation to see if we’re the right fit for your family. Together, we can help your child build flexibility and confidence.

Share Your Story

Have your own “tantrum of the week”? I’d love to hear from you. Email your story or question to help@tantrumoftheweek.com—your experience might be featured in a future episode.